Shapes and Meaning

I have two kids. The relationship with my daughter is like puzzle pieces on a table. Generally, we fit together like we sleep snuggle - so easy. We complement. Doing things together feels simple - in flow.

My son and I fit together too, but not like two puzzle pieces lying flat on the table. We don’t make a picture together. We fit together at 90-degree angles, like a sculpture. It is more effort, more precarious, but super interesting when we achieve our balance.

This is how my mind works. This is why I design sculptures and images in gardens and on stage. When I am able to create the shape of things invisible to see, they are easier to understand and accept. My love for each child is equally strong, but the love feels so different. This visual context helps me go deeper into what it already is, rather than trying to force sameness. As a bonus, I can share these images with my children. They open a dialogue.

Designing shapes can be used in many aspects of my life. It works for me because of how my brain works. If we each got to know our own minds better, we could give ourselves the customized medicine we need to be more at peace in our lives.